Unwell attitudes within Marriage

Mark McIlroy

03.04.2026



This article is not a happy article. It is a review of some extremely unwell attitudes that sometimes arise in marriage.

The purpose of this is that some people might reconsider their ideas.


1. The following attitudes are extremely degrading and harmful to a person's partner.


2. Living for 20 or 25 years, married to a person, with the plan that you will leave them one day in the future.

For example, a woman planning to leave when her children are grown, or a man planning to leave his wife for a younger woman in her old age.


3. Treating one's partner like a servant. Some people take authority over their partner and give them instructions like a person would give to a servant. In some cases the tone of voice is far worse than a person would give to an actual employee.

Asking your partner nicely to do something is fine.


4. An attitude that 'I am in charge'. Marriage should be an equal partnership.


5. Long-term denial of sex. Adult human beings have needs. Whether it be a woman or a man. Refusing sex for months or years is a harmful

thing to do to a person's partner.


6. Repeated infidelity. If a person is repeatedly unfaithful to their partner they cannot expect their partner to stay with them

or expect their marriage to last.